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Don’t Your New Year Resolutions come true? This is why…

Even though we’re still in November, you’ll see it on the magazines in a few days. No, I’m not talking about Christmas (in fact, a lot of Christmas feeling is around there now, in supermarkets and big shops mainly). I’m talking about New Year Resolutions.

Maybe you don’t even think about that, not even do it (then, maybe you should stop reading this). Maybe you do it as a tradition, like wearing red underwear on New Year’s Eve, or drinking with a golden ring inside your sparkling glass. Or maybe you really do it because you do believe that what you set your mind to, you will accomplish. If so, this is for you.

And this is for you, mainly, if year after year, you are not able to make these resolutions come true. Do you want to know why? There are many options:

a. You don’t really want that. Let’s face it. Sometimes, you choose that resolution because you should/your friend has it, too/you are supposed to… Really? If you are older than eighteen, you don’t have to. You are not a child, waiting for someone else to tell you what to do. Make your own choices. Face the consequences. Period.

b. That isn’t what your life (and yourself) are about. That has nothing to do with you. For example, learning a new language has nothing to do with you if you think that you are not going to need it and you see no reason to do it. Do you want to do it? Go ahead! But if “that’s what girls like you usually…” then, think again. Do you really want to waste your time (and even money) on that?

c. There are a lot of people (or circumstances) against that. Let’s face it: you want to lose some weight, and even your doctor has told you something about that. But your friend doesn’t agree. She thinks that drinking a little bit (or a little more than that) every weekend does not make you gain weight, neither some special coffee that you like to drink with cream on it, neither your Friday night pizza (it’s vegetarian!), neither… I’m not telling you to abandon your resolution or leave your friend. But if you want everything to work, you’ll have to think about it, and how you are going to face the obstacles when they will come. Do you really want to lose some weight? Organize some extra activities with your friend that make you both “move your body” (dancing is included). Tell her to support you in your new resolution and share a healthier meal, instead of the ones that you are sharing now. If she is your friend, she’ll understand it, respect your decision and even enjoy that new lifestyle (or, at least, she won’t sabotage your efforts). If she doesn’t agree, then, find new healthier friends to share the difficult-healthy-style-moments!

d. You have no plan. It’s hard to face it, but sometimes you just want it to be done. But in a magic style. Like saying some words and suddenly seeing yourself running your own business and traveling internationally. In just a second. Without any effort, without any plan. Even though writing your resolution is the beginning, you are going to need more: lots of action. First, you have to plan how you are going to do it, what things you’ll need, what obstacles you’ll find… And then, you’ll have to do something simple: Just Do It.

e. Your life doesn’t follow a plan. No, I’m not talking about planning each and every minute. I’m talking about you and your life purpose. Who are you? What do you want to life to be? Sometimes we set resolutions and then we do things that eliminate the results, or create a big obstacle (yes, sometimes we are our own worst enemy). And we begin again. What’s the solution? Create your Life Plan. Consider if your new resolution is aligned with it. If not, think about how much you want that, or if you have to change something in your Life Plan (yes, your Life Plan is flexible, and you can modify it whenever you decide to).

Don’t you know how to begin with your Life Plan? Then, take a look at this Checklist, and see if you are on the right path…